Loving Your Children
Loving Your Children; Protection
In the beginning; Genesis 1 In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth. And the earth was without form, and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters. And God said, Let there be light: and there was light. …
God created the earth for many reasons and two of those reasons were to protect us and to provide for us.
Protection is a need that we all desire. From the man who has it all to the babe who only knows his mother, this is because protection is one of the greatest signs of love.
We know that protection is love, because God so loved us that He sent his only begotten Son to protect us from the pit that destroys the soul. John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Love and protection are knitted together within the minds of men, to this point; that when something tragic happens in one’s life they will question who God is and why God let it happen.
For we automatically assume that if someone loves us, they will protect us and provide for us.
Therefore being as Christ-like as we can be, we provide a home for our children that resembles our home in the next life. Out of love we do our best to make our home look, sound, smell, taste and feel like heaven.
From the Garden of Eden, all things were beautiful to the eye, the sounds came from above, the taste were of the wedding wine of Christ, and there were no thorn’s in the garden.
Loving Your Children; Physical Protection
Physical protection is as natural as breathing. Nearly every parent would kill someone who was trying to end one of their children’s lives or bring great harm to them. (I am among this group.)
We do this because we love our children and believe it is holy and right. And God shares with us that we have a duty to provide for our families. 1 Timothy 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
I have a deep conviction that provision and protection can not be separated. For if a man can provide and not protect he does not provide all that he can to protect all that God gave him. And if God gives a man a portion in this world the man should protect that portion. Especially those that are in his own home. There are many reasons to protect our loved one’s.
Children who know that they live in a protected environment, will always have a safe felling around them. And when they are provided for, they will not need to be told over and over they are loved. They will know instinctively that they are loved.
Yes children know when they are safe and know when things are not right in the home. And it is better that they come to know that the home is safe, though protection and provision. For children will adapt to either home.
Loving Your Children; A Life-Style Of Normalcy
Loving your children is a task that only Father and Mother can fulfill. And one of the first things that comes with loving children is rules.
We all have rules; we give them and take them. We question and think upon them. Yet in the end we follow rules.
If any man loves his children he will establish rules for them to live by, and he will have little bend if any in them. Exodus 15:26 And said, If thou wilt diligently hearken to the voice of the Lord thy God, and wilt do that which is right in his sight, and wilt give ear to his commandments, and keep all his statutes, I will put none of these diseases upon thee, which I have brought upon the Egyptians: for I am the Lord that healeth thee.
The child left on his own, soon enough will find trouble and hell. Yes, we all make rules for our children and we do it because of our love for them and we know better than they do.
Children may have a certain amount of smarts, but they lack any wisdom when it comes to living life and that is why we guide them, sometimes with a soft hand and sometimes with a firm path. I will say this, “Love without protection and provision is not love.
Let us know for certain that how a child is raised will stick with them for years, if not a life time. A Battleship is hard to turn around.
Loving Children; The Inner Home, Food
Nobody knows the works of the inner-home like those that breath within its inner-walls. The home is the sower of seeds to the heart. How a child acts when inter acting with society is how they react with those within the home.
Simply put if parents have a problem controlling their children when in public. It is because they have a problem controlling them at home. (I read this in a book, and have seen it to be true.)
There are essentials that a home should provide beyond protection and one of them is food. It comes natural to many parents that their children should eat a balanced meal and this is good.
Food is a good guild to see how much children are loved within the home. Yes food will show a parents love for their children.
When I see glutenous children, I will usually see one or two glutenous parents.
Gluttony is sin Proverbs 23:21 For the drunkard and the glutton shall come to poverty: and drowsiness shall clothe a man with rags. Any parents who allow their children to participate in sin as a life-style are in grave danger of their place with God.
I am not speaking of the child who could loss twenty pounds, I am speaking of gluttony.
If your children are over eating it is a great sign that they do not have self-control nor are taught it. It is my hope that you as parents would watch what they eat and have mom stay home to keep an eye on the refrigerator. And if Mom is home, that she would out of love, teach her children self-control.
I would rather have a house with children that are taught self-control and is poor than a house that is fat in the flesh.
Loving Children; Association
If there is a mold that children can be poured into, it’s the mold of “association” We as parents owe God a great debt. For He gave to our souls, much to love, when He gave us children to rear.
When it comes to association, it can be simply said, “This is where boundaries are built outside the home.
We all allow our children to play and fellowship with other children. Yet where do you draw the line? In to many cases the line has already been drawn. So let us look at the circumstances that arise when we begin to compromise what we know is godly.
We will make excuses that sound well, we will reason within our own minds and we will tend to see it as helping some sort of cause.
When in reality we will not measure the damage that will be inflicted upon our own children’s minds, hearts, and souls. Let alone their strength (Character.)
Not being diligent about who your children associate with, is like building a bridge without guard-rails.
Loving Children; Were Love Differ’s From A Love
The difference between love and a love for a child is this; If a parent has a love for a child, they will die for that child. If a parent is in love with a child they will die and live for that child.
As you read on, understand; there is a difference between surviving and living for some one.
Let me clarify my self. All that I ask is that you read on, then pray and seek what God thinks on the matter.
I believe that just about any parent would die for their child, if put into that circumstance. Yet I believe that few live for their children. And by faith I hope that changes soon, yes soon.
There are some cases beyond the control of men, that make some things impossible, and this I understand and grieve over, I speak of the couple who has choices and chooses to widen their own path in life over seeking God’s view on the matter.
A love for a child, will send them to school, check on their grades, select friends for them, and make sure they are taught well. The parents or one parent will go to teacher conferences, will help with any short falls that their child is having, and give their child some time to help them along, in the hope of achieving better grades, a financial future and to look as good as they can as parents. (We do this in own house to be seen as good parents.)
Think upon this and pray; would it not be wonderful to have your children be nurtured in purity. To be sheltered from the evils of this world and to know a home filled with the love that can only come from a mother?
Oh my dear friend; sheltering a child from evil is not evil! I shelter seedlings from the cold, wind and frost and men call it good. Yet men will remove the warmth of a mother’s arms, the shelter of mother’s hand and the covering of mother’s kind words, for a morsel of this world’s bread.
The mind of a child is shaped by the hand of the master. Who will be the master of your child? Who will guild your child’s hand to reach for things and what will they reach for?
A child’s arms are for hugging, not coveting. A child’s heart is for loving, not envying. A child’s soul is set on innocence, and was created to stay in the frame that the Creator made for it. And a child’s mind is for imagining about the beautiful things of this earth and the wonderful things around them, not for the ways of the world.
Do you seek the ways of God for your child, do you want your children to be pure? Then teach them the ways of purity and if one’s soul wants purity, they must think upon purity; Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
The parent who is in love with their child would never send their child to public school! For the same reason I would never send my wife out late at night into the city to go grocery shopping.
To send a child to public school today is to teach them for twelve years everything you stand against if you believe in the Word of God. Romans 8:5 For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit.
Love is a full-time commitment, not a part-time job.
Loving Your Child; It Is Time To Pray
When you send your child to school, you are making a choice to have them educated under people who are unbeliever’s and if those instructors do love God they can not say a word about it. You are simply putting your children into the hands of a potter, Who’s wheel is bent and who’s hands are corrupt.
The home may have great persuasion over a child’s mind but ten thousand hours of school will leave a huge foot print upon a child’s heart, mind, soul and strength.
Think upon this; Why are children turning out more and more different from their parents every generation?
Is it greater in the sight of God to have one’s children wise in the ways of the world or filled with the ways of wisdom, that comes from heaven?
Were is the faith in one’s soul, who thinks that there is anyone who can be a better keeper of their children than who God gave them to?
Married couples pour great amounts of time into their children when it comes to education, yet when it comes to educating their children about God; little time is spent.
If our society is ever to be turned around, one of the first things to go will be the “high place that our society places on education.”
Sending your child to school in most cases is a decision based on self not on God. It is a sorrowful thing to ponder upon; that parents would want to spend less time with their children. So that others may raise them.
It is time to consider schooling your children at home, teaching them what is right and wrong, giving them a dose of God every day and letting them know you love them by how much time you spend with them.
Let us face the truth, what we spend time with we love and how much time we spend with what we love, dictates how much we love it. Our children know this too well. That is why so many children are lost. They have no anchor at home.
So in the “Sea of Self” they begin to drown and the world is all to quick to throw them a life-preserver.
The loss of dollars at home by Mom coming home can not measure the gaining of the heart’s of the children within the walls of the home. Mom please come home, your children are dying.
Loving Your Child; Dress
Parents should take the greatest of care when choosing what their children should wear. Clothing is a billboard to the world on how someone wants to be viewed, thought of and perceived of when it comes to all matters; from spiritual to physical .
Sad to say, “In most cases a child is reared by standards that are not godly when it comes to dress.” I find it sorrowful that so many parents say, “let your child be a child.” Yet they dress their five-year old like a teenager and their teenagers like harlots.
I speak and my yes is yes and my no is no. A girl dressed in tight clothes is not pleasing to God nor any follower of God. And in almost all cases she is selling her purity for a bowl of lentils. And the parents know it.
I will speak to you parent to parent; dress and if you send your children to public school will determine if your daughter and son keep their virginity or loss it at a tender age. You must ask your own heart; How do I keep my child pure. Out of love and protection, you must take time out of your day and see what your children are wearing and why!
We dress our daughters and sons in a pleasing manner to God. For many reasons. The first being; it is pleasing to God. 1 Timothy 2:9In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10 But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.
Making Of A Virtuous Women Within The Home
Secondly; the way our children dress is due to conviction. We are convinced through love for our children that their lives may be lived with less pain by the way they dress.
We have eight children that range from 2-11 yrs old. We believe that it is our duty to protect our children and clothing is one of the easiest ways to safe-guard your children’s spiritual and physical place. For the witness of clothing is a witness of works. And shows how much faith one has in Christ.
Yes, faith. To many people dress immodest, thinking they will find the right person one day. Instead of dressing prudent and believing through faith, good works and prayer, God already has that special mate for them.
I write to you men who would die for your child. Yet you will not out of love, protect them when it comes to their virginity. It is no secret that boys and girls today who dress worldly will in all likely hood lose their virginity at an early age.
You know that the last statement is true, I know it, and God sees and will judge the situation as He will. Yes, men. You would never give your children alcohol and the keys to the car; yet you will give them clothes that a snake couldn’t wear and let them come home at midnight. (that is playing Russian Roulette with five bullet’s in a six-shooter.
My soul weeps for the loss of such a thing, yet it weeps more that nothing was done to stop it. The pain that will crush your daughters tender heart. When she is dumped for the next girl. And how many more times shall her heart be hardened? O’ how selfishness is breed by pain and pain by selfishness. O’ what a brood of viper’s, society has become.
The young man who loses his pure place and in many cases is dumped for the new boy. Will never see things the same in most cases. What he has bought, was given cheaply, yet cost him his place and position as a man.
Husband’s and wives, your children will grow up and know you did not do all that you could have done to love them and protect them when they are older. And you wonder thy the Nation, cities, neighborhood and the local church has fallen apart.
Virginity can only be restored (read restoring virginity)
I speak to you parents, You know by your own works as a youth why you dressed as you did and you know what the consequences of doing so was and still is. Husbands do you desire a wife who dresses worldly, then you desire many women. Wives do you dress as the world, then you please the mind of a worldly husband and the world.
Husbands have your wife dress godly and you will do more for Christ in a day than you have done in a year. Wives dress Godly and you will witness more for Christ than ten-thousand instructors could in a year.
Yes dress is the rudder to the soul. The chaste dressed young lady is protected not only by her dress but more so by the word of God; Titus 2:5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
When we see a young lady dressed godly; we see purity, when we see an older woman dress godly; we see a great witness of purity. When we see a young man courting purity we know he seeks a pure life because he has a pure eye, (his eye is single) Matthew 6:22 The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light. When we see a man with his godly dressed wife we see purity unto the point of holiness.
Dress is not everything, but it is valued over nearly everything. If this was not true, there would not be so much emphases on dress, so much time to get dressed and so much money spent on dress.
All men want the morals of this nation to change for the better, yet few man are willing to change their own moral’s. And dress is the moral barometer of a nation.
Loving your Children; The Answer
Dad loving his family
Women dress the way they do because men love the way they dress. If the man loves his wife and children, he will dress pleasing to God and his family. I try to dress as God would want me to and this is pleasing to my house.
When a man loves his wife and no other, she will dress pleasing to God.
A beautiful wife
A beautiful wife is a sight to behold, she will make a husbands bones young and make his heart merry. She will be a light to the world and nourishment to the home.
She will set the compass within her sons hearts towards purity, she will establish purity within the souls of her daughters. She will have more value to God, her home and her community than a thousand ill-dressed woman, with minds full of knowledge. Because to the godly the ways of the world are ugly.
For what is the value of a woman who dresses pleasing to the world?
How can we dress modest, in the age that we live in? It is so because we live in Christ not in the customs of this world. 1 John 2:15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
If the man of the home is ungodly in dress and desires women who dress as harlots then all in his home will most likely be ungodly in dress. I have witnessed women who wanted to dress modest and their husband would have none of it under his roof. I will only say this about what ungodly dress does to a people, church and land; Deuteronomy 4:1 Now therefore hearken, O Israel, unto the statutes and unto the judgments, which I teach you, for to do them, that ye may live, and go in and possess the land which the Lord God of your fathers giveth you.
Simply said, “Until men become upright fathers they will continue to loss everything they own spiritually. From their spiritual place with God, to their physical place in the work-force.
Loving Your Children; Every Parents Vision
All parents should have a vision for their children, when it comes to their spiritual health. Regardless of their age, you as parents should be sharing with your children what you expect of them as they grow into adulthood. One of the things that we instill in our children early on is that God has chosen a spouse for them; and they should be praying for them when the time is right.
You should be instilling in your children the important issues of life, and when it comes down to the final line, there are but two issues of great importance; That salvation could come to your child’s soul and who they marry.
Those two things will bring great joy and bring great joy to generations or only sorrow shall be had, for a long season.
Grasp onto this thought for a moment; That no man should ever see your daughter’s or son’s body above the knee or below the first button of the neck nor should their arm’s be seen above the elbow by no man or woman. That they should know very little about the intimate things in life until that special talk the night before the wedding.
They should be pure in the bridal chamber. That they should never have felt a kiss out side of father or Mother, until that special day. That they should be in love with only one soul all their days and know no other all their days. That their hearts, souls, and minds are one with the one who they love. Yes, that upon the whole earth, there is no other.
If any soul should tell you, “Those days are over” they are with an evil mind and their tongue is bent towards hell.
Think upon that. O’parents, who have suffered pain, who know how it is to have your hearts defiled, O’parents, who have been made pure, from repentance, let it not be so with your children. Save them the pain, O’pain who has killed the hearts of millions, let it not be so to those who chose to follow the pure path of Christ. Let them be a light to this world.
Seek purity before it is too late, dress your children beautiful in the sight of God, give them an opportunity to achieve purity unto the grave, do not burden them with such laws of this world. That teach them to love evil and put them under the burdens of a grieved soul.
For the world’s laws are wicked, dress this way, attract this way and walk upon the stairs that go down to Shoal.
Be a witness against the laws of this world, For the world’s laws say, “Sin is well.” Yes your children are within the law of this world or God. For the law of this world will only bring pain. Where the law of God shows us sin so that we avoid sin. For since you have the law you know sin. Yet since you have Christ you know how to perform that which is pleasing to God the Father.
For is it not better for your children to be chastised for a season, than to suffer pain for all their days?
As parents, you are guiding your children towards heaven or hell. Therefore by the power of God, do that which is right. Have a spiritual vision for your children; who they will become, marry, and how they should serve the Lord. For if you don’t have a vision for your children the world will. Amen